Complicated Relationships

My mother has always told me relationships are hard. I never believed that, when I was younger it seemed pretty easy to relate with people. You would hang out with someone if you had fun with him or her and supposedly all your family loves you and is there to help you. As I grew older I realized my mother was right. And I figured out that relationships are hard because people are complicated. When I was in seventh grade I had my first big fight with my best friend. We tried to fix it but neither of us ever got the bottom of the problem and I think she still has some resentment today, 4 years later. We tend to over react and make our self he victim no matter and the situation. With my family things happened differently. My mother has two brothers and one sister and I could have sworn they had a great relationship until I came home and found my mother crying. I´m not going to tell all the details but the main pint is that relationships are hard and learning to cope with people is also hard.

In chapter two of Song of Solomon Morrison continues to talk about the Dead family. We learned in chapter one that Macon Dead Jr. is a complicated man. He hates his wife and is obsessed with money. From these two chapters we can assume that the novel is going to include various situations where relationships are important. In my opinion they define the characters. Morrison never states a clear reason for the hatred that Macon feels towards his wife. Knowing what we know about him, he may feel that because of complex of inferiority. He finally gained power and was able to “approach the most important Negro in the city” (22). Although he overcame his difficulty he did not like the idea that his wife was, in a way, better than him.

I can´t really say anything about the relationship with his daughters yet. But further into the chapter Morrison describes a father-son moment. Milkman had spent a whole afternoon in his aunt’s house even though his father does not permit it. When he found out he claims to his why he went and they get into a discussion, Milkman states that he feels “like a twelve-year old baby”(50). He asked his father if he was treated that way when his twelve and immediately Macon has a flashback to his youth and tells Milkman a story. “Macon paused and let a smile come on. He had not said any of this in many years.” (51). His son listens with attention because his father had never shared anything like that with him. “His voice sounded different to Milkman. Less hard, and his speech was different” (52). With this conversation, Morrison reveals a change in their relationship. We could se Macon softening a little bit. As he remembered what his childhood was like and how much he admired his father he wanted his son to feel that way about him. There may be some things he regret and does not want to make the same mistakes. He even tells his son that he´ll teach him to “own himself and other people too” (55). Macon becomes a little less complicated.